Sexual Misconduct
“Sexual misconduct and sexual assault are not mistakes. Those are choices that hurt and harm women. A mistake is something that wasn’t intended to happen”. A choice to act in a reprehensible, immoral or illegal way is something for which one should take responsibility, and make legal amends.
J.S.
Exactly.
One does not need to overcome ones biological aversion and natural emotional boundaries when one makes a mistake.
It is an extraordinary act of bad will to commit a violation against another person.
Thank you for your clarity on this
We have to admit this has been going on for thousands of years. IT was tolerated, and hidden in secrecy. Women and children, and some men, were violated. It probably has happened to 1 in 3 people. It was part of the social fabric of life. But at some point in modern times, we began to see that women’s lives matter. We began to understand what rape does, psychologically. We have begun to understand PTSD and lasting trauma, which cripples people for life. Women are not cattle or sheep. Women have souls and deserve to be respected. Children too, deserve to be protected from violations. CONSENT is the main issue. We need to get these predatory men, who before were operating on instinct and acting like predators, to be willing to court the women, and get consent for intimate contact. When good men realize this is important, and do not put up with other men violating women and children, and acting without consent in relationships, we will finally have graduated to the next level of socially being human. Both rape and pedophilia are the biggest traumatic sources of psychological disturbance in people’s lives. Incest is even harder to overcome, because it is violation by a family member who should have been trustworthy. Many times it is also associated with alcoholism and/or drug use, and it destroys lives and families. The recidivism of pedophilia is staggering. The number of violations in an average lifespan of a pedophile is in the thousands. The average number of crimes is 117. We are lucky to have good support groups now for this. RAINN is one. And SAPREA is another, who are trying to help people get past the scarring psychological trauma.
The good news is, from the RAINN data, that 95% of the behavior can be removed by education and training about consent, as part of communicating desire for intimacy. This is wonderful news. It means we can help people grow into mature human beings, who can learn to communicate, and to order their emotional lives in a healthier way. Please help teach, share, educate, inform, raise curiosity and willingness to learn. This is the most interesting thing that has happened in human behavior for thousands of years. We can become more mature human beings!
RAINN
is an excellent source of information about this problem. There are many resources now.Discussing CONSENT with young people, especially parent-to-children conversations, but also in schools and churches, and in other groups, is very important.
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